Book cover: The Liar in Your Life - The Way to Truthful Relationships

The Book

The Liar in Your Life: The Way to Truthful Relationships
US Edition, published by Twelve, August 3, 2009:
Hardcover: ISBN 978-0446534932 $24.99 320 pages
Now available in Paperback
Audio CD: ISBN 978-1600246531 $34.98 8 CDs (Read by Bob Walter)
Kindle Edition: ASIN: B002HHPW8E $9.99

The Liar in Your Life
British Edition, published by Virgin Books, August 13, 2009:
Hardcover: ISBN 978-1905264582

From the Publisher
It's a fact: we all lie.

And we lie a lot—two to three times in a ten-minute conversation is the average, as Robert Feldman, one of the world's leading authorities on deception, shows in this groundbreaking book. From the 'white lies' of social niceties ('It's so nice to see you') to lies told with intent ('I promise to give you 20 per cent of the total funds transferred to your vital bank account'), deception and dishonesty play a huge—and crucial—role in our society at every level, from the school yard ('I didn't do it!') to the halls of government ('Iraq could launch weapons of mass destruction in 45 minutes').

Feldman draws on numerous examples from real life as well as research into deception to reveal why. You'll discover the truth about lying—why we all do it, what it costs us, how children learn to lie, who it benefits, why we're so often ready to accept the lies we're told, and how it can both succeed in helping us and fail with catastrophic results.

You'll also learn to recognize the lies you yourself tell, and in doing so how you can embrace a more honest approach to life. It's an intriguing look at a major force in our lives—the everyday deception in which we all participate. Because anyone who says they always tell the truth is a liar.

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The Author

Robert S. Feldman, Ph.D., a Fellow of both the American Psychological Association and Association for Psychological Science, has examined lying and everyday deception for over 25 years. Interim Dean of the College of Social and Behavioral Sciences and Professor of Psychology at the University of Massachusetts, Amherst, he is the recipient of the College Outstanding Teacher Award and was a Hewlett Teaching Fellow and Senior Online Education Fellow. He is also on the Boards of the Federation of Behavioral, Psychological, and Cognitive Sciences (FABBS) and the FABBS Foundation. He is represented by the Gillian MacKenzie Agency.

About the Author

Robert S. Feldman

Robert S. Feldman, Ph.D., a Fellow of both the American Psychological Association and Association for Psychological Science, has examined lying and everyday deception for over 25 years.

About the Author

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Why do people lie so much?

Most often, the lies we are exposed to are not venal, but rather ways to make social interactions proceed more smoothly. People lie to be agreeable or to make us feel better about ourselves. Of course, people also lie to build themselves up or to gain some advantage over us. And many of us lie to ourselves as much as we are lied to by others.

Conversation with Feldman

Latest News

Zeit Wissen Magazine [Germany] Publishes Article.
Feldman is interviewed at length about his research and writing on lying in the April-May, 2012 issue. Included are some compelling photographs.
April-May 2012.

WGBY Program Discusses Lying OnLine.
On WGBY's "Connecting Point" Dean Robert Feldman, professor of psychology, discussed his paper “Liar, Liar, Hard Drive on Fire: How Media Context Affects Lying Behavior.” He found that people are more likely to lie in instant messages and emails than in face-to-face interaction.
March, 2012.

Liar, Liar, Hard Drive on Fire Published in JASP.
A new study by Robert Feldman and Mattityahu Zimbler, a graduate student, published in the Journal of Applied Social Psychology (October 2011), finds that communication using computers for instant messaging and e-mail increases lying compared to face-to-face conversations, with e-mail messages containing the most lies.
October 2011.